In life, we face failures, discouragement, problems, and pain that sometimes we choose to hide them within ourselves. Unconsciously, we become prisoners of our own problems and ending one’s life has become the final solution for some people.
This is what we call “depression,” a common and serious illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think, and how you act. Losing interest in what once you enjoyed is a symptom of having depression. And if not detected and treated, it can be a threat to one’s life, like Kurtiee John Cairo Hierco who committed suicide because of depression.
Brye-brye Bendaño Ortega posted on his Facebook account that a good friend took his own life because of depression.
“Dear, depression. One good friend took his own life because of you. Nagtagumpay ka na naman. May susunod pa kaya? Sana naman ay wala.”
According to him, this is for those who can’t visit a specialist. “Depression” comes in a time when we cannot accept an unexpected situation that may happen to ourselves. And it is a matter of accepting that everything doesn’t work the way we want it to be, but that all we have to do is learn to face reality.
“All problems have their own solutions and failure is just a part of growing up to become a better version of ourselves,” this was Ortega’s words of encouragement to all who are depressed, and he continues that “if something’s not working or going right, then let life go on.
“If something’s not working or going right, then move forward. Life goes on. And if plans A, B, and C don’t work, remember, andaming letra sa alphabet.”
For all those who are brokenhearted, though it is really painful to accept that love is gone, only time can heal the scars. If a relationship won’t work the way you wanted to, then leave it because you cannot force someone to love you. And there will come a time that someone would accept and love you for being who you are.
“Kung hindi na talaga mag work out ang relationship, wag nang ipilit. Love without love is like a flower that doesn’t blossom, pale, boring. Meron at merong magmamahal sa’tin sa kung ano at meron tayo.”
For him “Acceptance is the key” as he believes “Everything happens for a reason.” As he asked, “Why dwell on something that’s not making us happy anymore? We all want to be happy after all.
Ang sarap mabuhay. Maikli na nga ang buhay, pinapaikli pa natin lalo.”
His main advice for all who are depressed is to “Think positively” and with the guidance of Almighty God, the first person who can help yourself is you rather than taking your own life.
“Isipin mo pamilya mo, ang kinabukasan nila at kinabukasan mo, mga kaibigan at mga taong nagmamahal sa’yo.”
Reach out and learn to open up to the people who love you, with what you’re going through, and they will not give you only their time but they would do anything just to make you feel better. And most important is to pray and trust God for He has a better plan for us all.
D E P R E S S I O NDear, depression. One good friend took his own life because of you. Nagtagumpay ka na naman. May…
Mga Kawikaan 3:5-6
Tumiwala ka sa Panginoon ng buong puso mo, at huwag kang manalig sa iyong sariling kaunawaan:
Kilalanin mo Siya sa lahat ng iyong mga lakad, at kaniyang ituturo ang iyong mga landas.
And for his best friend who passed away, it was too late for them to notice that he was struggling with depression. That all those times, he was just wearing a mask to hide his true feelings and suddenly gave up and took his life.
At para sa isang butihing kaibigan, Kurtiee John Cairo Hierco, alam naming masaya ka kung nasaan ka man ngayon. You no longer feel pain am sure. Lahat nagtatanong kung bakit mo ginawa. Tinanong kita kung okay ka lang at ang sabi oo okay ka pero yun pala ay hindi. Bakit ikaw pa e ang bait mong tao. Pero wala e. Nangyare na. Wala ka na. Ingat ka dyan a. Pakiyakap na lang si Ama at si Papa Jesus para sa’min. Guide mo pamilya mo at mga taong nagmamahal sayo. We’ll see you again, in paradise. Paalam kaibigan.”
How would you define love?
The dictionary says “love is to like another adult very much and be romantically and sexually attracted to them or to have strong feelings of liking a friend or person in your family.”
This means that love is an affection which a person has perceived. But one disagrees, because for him, love is not affection but a promise.
“Maglalabinlimang taon, at ngayon ko lang natitiyak na hindi pakiramdam ang pagmamahal, kundi pangako—na mamahalin ninyo…
A captioned post has been going around Facebook, made by Jerry B. Gracio, an ABS- CBN writer who made people relate to his point of view about love.
" …..hindi pakiramdam ang pagmamahal, kundi pangako—na mamahalin ninyo ang isa’t isa, may nararamdaman ka man o…
On his post, Jerry started to share about his love partner “Mon,” who would travel for three days with his friend for work in Baguio. And few days before, Mon was so jealous because he had seen Jerry talking with somebody. He was anxious about it that it won’t make him feel sleepy, and wanted to argue with it.
Before Mon left for the job, he leaves a message for Jerry saying “Je, three days lang akong mawawala, huwag kang gagawa ng kahit ano na pagkakagalitan natin, may tiwala ako sa ‘yo,” Then Jerry only smiled.
May ganitong mga umaga na aalmusalin mong nililimi ang post tulad nito ni Sir Jerry B. Grácio:"Maglalabinlimang taon,…
At that moment, Jerry’s admitted that he used to flirt but he knows his limitations. He also knows who he should love, though sometimes he doesn’t feel it.
Jerry led him to the car and Mon kissed him on the lips, in front of the people in their place before he set off. He said, “Ako ang nahiya. Tangna, ilang laláki ang hahalik sa ‘yo sa labas, sa harap ng maraming tao?”
Jerry can attest of Mon’s love for him, though sometimes he doesn’t feel the same way.
For fifteen years in a relationship with him, that was the moment that he was so sure that love is not an affection but a promise – a promised to love each other with or without the feeling of liking.
Kanina, bigla na lang nagsabi si Mong na aalis siya. Tumawag palá sa barkada ko, sasáma raw sa trabaho, naiinip na sa…
For him, you cannot depend on your life on mutable feelings. But having an affirmation to love one another, either with or without the affection, because love is not an affection nor an infatuation.
Love is indeed a very intricate thing. To some it can be complicated, but to others, it is just as simple as “ABC”.
Take the case of Gary and Almeda Hardwick. Gary is 53 years younger than Almeda, who is 72 years old. Hard to believe? Let us read about their love story.
Age Does Not Matter.
The couple met at the funeral of Almeda’s son, Robert. After two weeks, they got married.
It was, according to Almeda, a whirlwind romance. Married for 43 years, Almeda said her second marriage is very much different from the first one.
Her first marriage was just that, a marriage. Her union with Gary, though is full of romance and sweetness which she never experienced with her first husband.
The Magical Thing Called Love.
The romance between Gary and Almeda is truly magical. Who would ever imagine romance blooming between a 72-year old woman and a man 53 years junior than her?
The couple believed that they are each other’s soulmate. According to them, they hand a wonderful time on their honeymoon. Both were satisfied with each other.
Gary said Almeda is the woman of her dreams. His love for her truly reflects on the way he talks about her and how he is proud of their relationship.
On Love, Life and Relationships
Almeda is currently hosting a talk show called Girl’s Talk. This show tackles on love, life and relationships. On the show, Almeda offers pieces of advice and tips about relationships.
On her first segment, she answered a question about how to make love last. In every aspect of a relationship, it is always best to keep the communication lines open.
According to her, if there is a problem, or even just a small indifference, sit down and talk. When couples truly love each other, regardless of what obstacles and trials come their way, what they have will last. True love will conquer anything.
In his catechists series on the Commandments on October 24, Pope Francis stated that no relationship is authentic without fidelity and loyalty.
“One cannot love only as long as ‘it’s convenient’; love manifests itself beyond the threshold of one’s own advantage, when everything is given without reserve.”
He then added that love is not an arrangement until further notice as fidelity is needed in mature human relationships. This doesn’t just apply to romantic relationships, but friendships as well. He said that a friend “proves himself authentic because he remains a friend in all circumstances.
“The faithful Friend who welcomes us even when we make mistakes and always wants what is good for us, even when we do not deserve it.”
Pope Francis then added that unconditional love is actually a human need.
“And those who do not receive this acceptance carry within themselves a certain incompleteness, often without knowing it.
“The risk is calling unripe and immature relationships “love,” with the illusion of finding the light of life in something that is at best only a reflection of it.”
He warned people that this may lead people to giving too much weight on physical attraction.
“Fidelity is indeed a way of being, a style of life. One works with loyalty, one speaks with sincerity, one remains faithful to the truth in one’s own thoughts, in one’s own actions.
“A life woven in fidelity is expressed in all dimensions and leads us to be men and women who are faithful and trustworthy in every circumstance.”
The latest Social Weather Stations (SWS) survey conducted last December 8 to 16, 2017 has shown that three out of five Filipinos selected career over love life.
Regardless of their gender, 81% or four out of five who chose their respective careers are single. There is 57% who wanted to live a happier love life while 54% who are in a very happy relationship but preferred the same.
The SWS survey found out that 14% emphasized that they “do not need to have a love life”, while 29% shared “it could be happier”, and 57% explained that their love life is “very happy”.
LUCKY IN LOVE AND LIFE
The study showed that 84% believed that it is possible to succeed in both love and career at the same point in their lives with 58% who answered “definitely possible” and 26% who answered “somewhat possible”.
There is also about 3% who answered “definitely impossible” and 5% who answered “somewhat impossible” or only 8% who believed that it is impossible to be victorious in their respective career and love life at the same time.
The preference for success in both the career and love life was high among those who have live-in partners and married individuals.
According to the SWS survey, among the respondents who agreed that they experience success in both their career and love life were men with live-in partners at 76%, married men at 72%, single men who are widowed/separated/divorced at 59%, and single men who never got married at 36%.
On the other hand, it was also high among single women at 30%, 55% from single but widowed/separated/divorced women, 68% from married women, and women with live-in partners at 72%.
The personal experience of having a “happy” career and love life at the same time was highest among respondents who are “very happy” with their love life at 76%, followed by individuals whose love life “could be happier” at 58%, and the people who have no love life with only 38%.
HAPPY MARRIED LOVE LIFE
The SWS survey said that respondents who were happier with their love life are married with men at 71% and women, at 62% versus those who have live-in partners with 62% of men and 53% of women.
However, there were single men at 36% and women at 28% who had never been married while singles who are widowed/separated/divorced have men at 21% and women at 23%.
The survey also found out that younger single men are “happier” with their love life in contrast to younger single women when it comes to being single.
The study also revealed that 28% of single women aged 18 to 34 years old were “very happy” with their love life compared to single men of the same age group at 45%.
Meanwhile, 35% of single women aged 35 years old and above were “very happy” with their respective love life compared to single men of the same age group at 16%.
The SWS survey concluded that having no relationship was more common among older single respondents compared to the young ones.
The study was conducted with 1,200 adult respondents through a face-to-face interview.
Valentine’s day is just around the corner and people are already posting on social media the gifts that they received or planning to give to their lover. Whatever kind of gift it may be, we’re sure that it’s pretty something.
However, we also know for sure that receiving a special gift from your family is the best feeling ever! Just like how this Twitter netizen felt so happy after receiving an early Valentine’s gift coming from his dad!
This netizen shared on Twitter his conversation with his dad regarding his coming out. “Sobrang naiyak ako. I love you, Pa!” as said on the post. See their convo below:
This is the most heartfelt part.
Based on screenshots of their conversation, the twitter netizen opened up about his sexuality and was accepted by his father wholeheartedly.
His dad also shared how proud he is of him and that he accepts him no matter what or who he is.
His dad told him that he was never once ashamed of him and that his only wish is for him to finish his studies, which would make him even happier. In the end, his father even invited him and his special someone to a dinner together with his sibling.
*Awww, we’re not crying, you are!*
If you don’t have a special someone to celebrate Valentine’s day, don’t forget that you can always celebrate it with your friends and of course, your family! After all, the gift of family is just may be the best gift we could ever receive.
Spread love and positivity this Valentine’s! (Credits to Twitter netizen: @_ivannnnn)
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Do you want your parents to live longer?
Scientists at the University of California, San Francisco claim that by spending more time with them, you can actually extend their lives.
So how exactly does visiting them more often makes them have more days on Earth?
In the study titled Loneliness in Older Persons, 1,600 adults with an average age of 71 were investigated. The results of the study showed that almost 23% of lonely participants died within 6 years of the study in contrast to only 14% of those who experienced adequate levels of companionship.
They also found that 43% of people older than 60 years old feel isolated.
Researchers concluded that loneliness is an important factor in the decline of quality of life among older adults. As a result, loneliness could lead to depression, cognitive impairment as well as other health issues like coronary artery disease.
Barbara Moscowitz, a senior geriatric social worker at Massachusetts General Hospital said: “The need we’ve had our entire lives – people who know us, value us, who bring us joy – that never goes away.”
Previous studies have shown that loneliness can indeed impair health outcomes in older people. A 2010 study by researchers at Brigham Young University in Utah conceded that social ties like having family and close friends are make someone live longer.
For the very first time, Bela Padilla and Jericho Rosales pair up for the upcoming luckiest film of the year. Directed by the Dan Villegas, Luck At First Sight is about two unlucky persons who found fortune in each other’s arms.
Joma, an independent man, believes that a life charm could help him win big to be able to pay his debts. Diane, on the other hand, doesn’t believe in ‘luck’ but relies heavily in hard work. The two accidentally met and instantly realized that they are each other’s life charm. Everything is going well, until one of them falls for the other. And according to the fortune teller whom Joma confide into, the luck will disappear when one of them gets romantically attached to the other.
Luck at First Sight hit the cinemas last May 3 and have been receiving great reviews from the viewers. And if you haven’t watched it yet, here’s 8 lucky reasons why you should rush to the cinemas now.
Starting his career being a director of photography, Dan Villegas has turned many films into blockbuster hits. Some of his works were English Only, Please, Always Be My Maybe, How To Be Yours, The Breakup Playlist, and the award-winning Walang Forever where he won his Best Director award in the Metro Manila Film Festival 2015.
We often hear Joyce Bernal being dubbed as Direk Joyce for being a world-class director who became the woman behind the success of Everything About Her, Bakit Di Ka Crush Ng Crush Mo, Kimmy Dora franchise, and many more. But now, he took the role ‘Creative Head’ for this genius film story-wise.
Being the ultimate leading man that he is right now, Jericho Rosales is thrilled to be working with this new set of crew, excluding Dan Villegas and Kim Molina whom he have worked with already in Walang Forever.
If you’re thinking that Bela Padilla is all beauty, you should be researching her credentials. He co-wrote our all-time favorite, Camp Sawi and even this film. Imagine? A genius young actress who can work in front and behind the cameras, even Dan Villegas and Direk Joyce lauded her creativeness when it comes to story building.
Admit it or not, Kim Molina and Cholo Barretto is the breath of fresh air in this film. They add up to the humor that the film caters. They have a love story of their own inside the film that the viewers would not expect, so watch out for it. Dennis Padilla and Issa Pressman also complete the lucky cast.
Choosing the official sound track of every film might be tricky, but for this film, they have chosen if not perfect, the best song that would match the film. Sung by the returning Zia Quizon, ‘Umaaraw, Umuulan’ was dressed with a different tone that perfectly fit the theme of the film. You can listen to the song’s new twist in Spotify.
We don’t want to spill the beans here, but the movie was packed with great life lessons that all can relate to. From love to family, the film is surely fit for all ages. It caters a different take on luck and love, that it can never be paired up, it’s like polar opposites. If you have the luck, you can find love, but once you find love, luck will disappear. Well, it’s enough for now and it’s for you to find out what happened between Joma and Diane.
At the beginning of the film, Madam Tetchie was introduced, the fortune teller who introduced the concept of Life Charm to Joma. According to her, all of us have a “life charm”, and once we meet them, everything that surrounds us turns to luck. It’s like a good luck charm, but an actual living person. Like any other charms that were introduced to us, there’s an exception. You can never fall in love with your life charm, because if you do, the luck will vanish.
To find out more about this incredible film, catch it in the cinemas NOW and enjoy the luck that the film will bring to you. Graded A by the MTRCB, you will surely fall in love with this movie.
What are you waiting for? Watch it now!
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Typically, a honeymoon takes a week or a month to celebrate, but this Japanese newlywed takes honeymoon to a different dimension!
Kaz and Mariko Yamaguchi hit the global news as they traveled around the world, and recorded their journey using a drone! It took them 400 days to travel around 48 countries.
According to Kaz, he did not plan to tape their epic journey, but since he just bought a DJI Phantom 3 Advanced Drone, might as well make use of it, right? According to him, he had insufficient experience in drowning before they started their honeymoon. But as time went by, he figured out that using their newly-purchased gadget is a genius idea. It has captured a wider view of the place they are visiting.
Partnered with great music, their breathtaking adventure absolutely left everyone in tears.
Some of the 48 places they visited include; Ethiopia, Patagonia, the Amazon Rainforest, Palm Jumeirah in Dubai, the Makgadikgadi Salt Pans in Botswana, the Rock of Guatapé in Colombia, and the world’s largest salt flat, Salar de Uyuni in Bolivia.
The video truly sparked the inner wanderlust to its viewers. The high-altitude takes on the moving video absolutely inspired everyone. It brings a new perspective in traveling to people.
What a great time to be alive!
The Philippines is known to be a religious country and Filipinos are very reserved and not that liberated. As the time goes by, generation to generation, people became more open to “deviance”.
And this includes LGBT and Same Love. Finding love for gay people has become easier and more tolerable compared before. We should remember that before, being gay is a mental disorder, but it is good to know that people start to become more open-minded. We can now say that love truly embraces all kinds of people, and is now available to everyone, regardless of preferences.
Unfortunately, there’s a difference between tolerating and accepting this kind of love. There’s still this belief that only men and women should be together, one man and one woman.
On February 27, photos of two guys together on a beach went viral and it was concluded that the two might be dating.
The Facebook page, “Bes, Kalma.” posted the pictures of the trending couple.
On the post, we can see a gay guy wearing a blue one-piece suit with a foreign man with pink board shorts. The two is yet to be identified.
The post already has 21,000 reactions, more than 9,000 shares and, 5,500 comments. Netizens have mixed opinions about this.
Many were delighted and expressed their support to the couple,
But some did not believe.
Some even said that the pictures are edited and the gay were just too desperate.
But at the end of the day, still, love knows no boundaries and love knows no gender. A couple or not, these two need to be respected.
Here’s the original post of “Bes, Kalma.” on Facebook.