A recently engaged Ellen Adarna shared her thoughts about living with a partner even before getting married.
In a podcast hosted by Miss Universe 2015 Pia Wurtzbach, Carla Lizardo, and Bianca Guidotti, Ellen shared her experience when she was younger which resulted in her opting to live with her then-boyfriend.
She said that she was living independently since she was 18-years-old, and it was her dad who prodded her to do so.
“My dad suggested na, ‘Mag-live in na kayo, get to know your partner,'” Ellen shared.
She added that her dad was worried that she might marry the guy at a young age without even knowing him even more.
“Kasi ‘yun talaga ‘yung fear niya, na magpakasal kami at a very young age. So he wanted us to get to know our partner, know what we want and don’t want.”
Ellen said that her parents are very open-minded about things, but admitted that her mother was a bit hesitant to let her live with the guy. However, looking back at it now, she’s very thankful that she decided to follow her father’s advice as she also learned new things about herself.
“I remember my dad always telling my mom when I was in high school. ‘You know, if you want your children to learn, you have to let them go.’ Kasi ako I’m a mother, I know how it feels… na takot na takot siya. But because of that tough love, I learned a lot.”
Adarna has a two-year-old son with actor John Lloyd Cruz named Elias.
She then admitted that she lived with all of her boyfriends and that if she doesn’t know what they’re like–she doesn’t know them well enough.
“Feeling ko if I don’t live in with a person… I don’t know him. How will I get to know him, how will I get to know the truth? Kasi it’s so different when you’re in the same house.”
She even shared that she had a former partner that would degrade her and treat their house helpers badly.
“He would throw things at my yaya. Nakita ko ‘to after seven months. Doon na lumabas,” she shared.
“I think that’s why my relationships don’t last long. Kasi ‘di ako matiisin eh. Parang, ‘Ayoko na ‘to, so what’s the point?’ Sasabihin ko, ‘We lived in for months tapos ayoko na to be with this guy. I cannot see a future with this guy. So why would I waste my time?'”
She then talked about her fiancé, Derek Ramsay. The reason why she realized that she’s ready to marry the actor was, “Before, the reason why my relationships didn’t work, akala ko sila ‘yung may problema. But it was the same pattern. It was me… it’s because I wouldn’t open up. I would hide it and keep it all in. I wouldn’t express how I really feel.
“Noong nag-inner work ako, na-realize ko na, ‘Oh my God, mali ko pala ‘yun.’ So when I met Derek, I was able to express it. I was better at expressing myself, and things just went very smoothly.”
On March 30, Ellen announced her engagement with Derek through an Instagram post. She uploaded a series of photos taken from the actor’s proposal along with some shots of her showing off her ring.
“Game Over,” she wrote in the caption.
She later uploaded a video of the actual proposal where Derek turned on a neon sign that says, “Will you marry me?”
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The two confirmed that they’re a couple in February 2021.