During an episode of Sakto on DZMM, the Technical Director of the Philippine Psychological Corporation Dr. Christabel Chao says that parents should not dictate what course their children are going to take up in college.
Chao says parents should guide their children but have no right to make the final decision on what course they should go with.
“Dapat magbigay tayo ng tamang gabay as kanila at aid sa decision making pero hindi po tayo dapat ang mag dictate sa kurso na gusto natin.”
Choosing what course to take up is one of the major decisions a person has to make in their lifetime.
“Pero itong mga kabataang ‘to, yung pagpili ng kurso, ang pinaka major decision in their young lives.
“Hindi po tayo dapat ang mag-dictate. Okay po magbigay tayo ng gabay sa kurso.”
Parents should put their children through career assessments and counseling so they can find out what course fits their abilities.
“Tulungan magkaroon ng access to career assessment and career counseling.”
Professionals are needed for these, but they are very worth it says Chao.
“Sa career assessment and counseling kasi, yun ay ginagawa ng mga professional, katulad ng mga psychologist at career counselors.”
Everything is considered, and from the information, the right options will be produced.
“Inaasess natin kung ano yung mga interest nila, ano ba yung goals in life nila,ano ba yung personality traits nila, ano ba yung capabilities nila.
“Gagawa tayo ng options and plan for them.”
Not every situation is the same, there are many factors that come into play.
“Case to case basis talaga iyong decision making eh. Iba ‘yung circumstance natin. May opportunity to pursue courses in good universities while some settle with state universities kung ano ang kayang i-offer ng colleges sa lugar nila.”
There is not a course out there that is easy, but with the assessment and counseling, there is a guarantee that the student will survive whatever course they have chosen.
“Alam nila kung bakit yung ang pinili nilang kurso. Kahit anong course may challenges.
“Hayaan nating yung bata ang mag decide given all this information.”
Parents should impose zero pressure on their children.
“Ang role natin is to encourage them, to support them, sa abot ng ating makakaya bilang mga magulang.”