Times have changed. Over a third of Filipinos, aged 15 to 24, have engaged in premarital sex (PMS) and a majority of them do not use protection, according to a data collated by the Philippine Statistics Authority (PSA) in 2013.
Gone are the days when women stayed ‘pure’ until they marry.
Toni Gonzaga posted a blog recently titled “WHY IT PAYS TO WAIT,” where she talked about her experience in a conservative household. Whenever she asks for permission, she expects disapproval. Even though she was envious of couples who were allowed by their parents to take trips with their boyfriends, she remained obedient hoping one day she’ll experience it too.
She also said in her Vlog how grateful she was with her husband, Paul Soriano. She quoted, “Nakakabilib din naman si Paul, kasi for eight years, never niyang sinabi sa’kin na, ‘mag-rebelde ka na, gawin mo na ‘yung gusto mo, may pera ka na.’
“I realized that your obedience and sacrifice will always be rewarded in the end. Medyo matagal-tagal ang hinintay ko para ma-experience ko ‘to. Pero it was all worth it. Kaya pala ako pinaghintay nang matagal, kasi may magandang nakalaan. Kung siguro pinilit ko pumunta dito noon, it would’ve cost me hundreds and thousands of pesos, and it would’ve cost me my relationship with my parents. But because I waited for God’s perfect time, it cost me nothing.”
Like Toni Gonzaga, Yeng Constantino and her husband Yan Asuncion also vowed to wait until marriage before having sex.
Now married to Yan Asuncion, they are both their partner’s first official relationship. The two vowed not to have sex until marriage — a topic brought up by TV host Kris Aquino during an interview. They finally got married in 2015.
Nikki Gil always has a strong personal conviction and value for sex and marriage, even if so many people made fun of her decision.
Many believe this was the reason for her controversial breakup with Billy Crawford. Nikki is now happily married to businessman BJ Albert, and both are blessed with a healthy baby boy, Finn.
Janine Tugonon, the beauty and brains titlist, winning Miss Universe 2012 as first-runner up, made a statement: “This is my principle… marriage is sacred.”
Her message is an inspiration to young Filipinas who value purity before marriage.
Another inspiration to the Filipino women is beauty queen Miriam Quiambao, who made a “purity pledge” with her non-showbiz fiance, the Christian motivational speaker and author Roberto “Ardy” Roberto.
She posted a photo of their “purity pledge” on her Instagram in October 2013.
“Let it be known that I, Ardy Roberto, aka Mr. Pogi, and I, Miriam Quiambao, aka Ms. U, vow before God to protect each other’s purity from this day onwards until the day, by God’s grace, that we are wed. Therefore, we shall not engage in any act that shall ignite sexual desires or passions prematurely, such as passionate kissing (lips-to-lips), pheromone sniffing, or foreplay. The only expressions of affection allowed are: kissing on the cheek, holding hands and hugging or “akbay.” I, Ardy Roberto, promise to take the lead in this purity pledge and protect you, Miriam Quiambao, and your testimony. So help us God! In Jesus’ name, Amen!”
Babies and children may be cute, but there is no rule book stating that you have to conceive a child as soon as you get married.
Here are some married celebrity couples who are yet to be blessed with a baby.
Maricris Garcia and TJ Cruz
Maricris and TJ have been married for almost two years now.
Adrian Alandy and Joselle Fernandez
Adrian married non-showbiz girlfriend Joselle in Fabruary 2017.
Last July, he admitted that he wants to have a baby soon. “Yes, we’re trying to have a baby. Hopefully, if not this year, maybe next year.”
Max Collins and Pancho Magno
Max and Pancho got married on December 11, 2017.
They decided to postpone their baby plans to next year as they are both busy with their respective careers.
Yeng Constantino and Yan Asuncion
The couple got married three years ago.
In a vlog dated June 2018, Yeng admitted that she’s excited to have a baby soon.
Karylle Tatlonghari and Yael Yuzon
The couple has been married for more than three years and they recently expressed their interest in trying to have a baby. “We’re not pressured but we hope to be blessed with a baby soon. Right now, we’re just trying to be in the best of health kasi ‘di ba if you want to have a baby, you need to be so.” Karylle said in one interview.
Karylle’s mother, Zsa Zsa Padilla, also shared that she’s excited to be a grandmother.
Jericho Rosales and Kim Jones
Jericho and Kim got married in 2014.
Kim, however, expressed that having a child isn’t the measure of being a ‘real woman’.
Maricar Reyes and Richard Poon
Maricar admitted last February that she feels pressured to get pregnant.
“I really love na hindi namin pini-pressure ang isa’t isa. Parang may peace kami ngayon na if it comes, it comes. If it doesn’t, we will wait. Kasi mayroon, it’s going to come, we’re just waiting.”
Vaness del Moral and Matt Kier
Vaness and Matt have only been married for a few months but they previously stated that they have no baby plans yet.
Maxene Magalona and Rob Mananquil
It has been almost a year of marriage for Maxene and Rob.
A few months ago, Maxene shared that they have no plans on having kids yet as they still have many goals they want to achieve. “Wala pa sa plans namin [ang magkaroon ng baby]. Maybe in a couple of years. But right now, ang dami pa naming gustong matupad na pangarap.”
Aiai Delas Alas and Gerald Sibayan
Aiai shared before that she wants to have a baby with husband Gerald.
In a previous Instagram comment, she admitted that she’s really praying for it to happen.
Coleen Garcia and Billy Crawford
Coleen admitted she and husband Billy have never really talked about when they plan to have babies.
“When it comes to babies kasi, yung marriage napa-plano niyo eh pero yung baby it’s really from God. So I’ll accept whatever God gives me, whatever time that may be. Kasi siya lang naman nakakaalam kung kailan yung perfect time and I’ve learned also from all the parents that I know na biglang naging parents.” she said.
Anne Curtis and Erwan Heussaff
After getting married last year, Anne shared that they’re planning to enjoy their marriage first before having children.
“Oh my gosh! We JUST got married! We will enjoy this first before taking that next BIG step! Not yet.”
Solenn Heussaff and Nico Bolzico
Solenn have told members of the press that they have been planning a family for two years
They have been putting off having a baby as they are building a house this year.
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