Many have been doing all their efforts to lose weight. Some would go on a strict diet and enroll in a gym classes. Never did they know that some people are also doing their best to gain weight, to be accepted by the people around them.
An inspiring Twitter post had Charlie Gan sharing his story as one of those people who recovered from anorexia. In his caption, he expressed his sentiments over the people who have rejected and even bullied him, and in some point of his life, he was praying to God as he wanted to end all his suffering.
Suffered Anorexia since childhood and experienced lot of bullying and rejections
One day I cried and talked to God that I want to end all of my sufferings, then changes happen
— Charlie Gan (@CharlieGan2) April 9, 2019
In an interview with Charlie via Twitter’s private messenger, he shared to us his experience in being anorexic. He remembered in his childhood days, that he was so skinny and only weighed 15 to 20 kilos because he only ate once in a day and sometimes doesn’t eat at all.
When he was in high school, he wanted to join pageants but one of his friends disagreed with the idea because he was so skinny and, worst, his classmates even blurted it in front of the class.
“One of my friends, sinabi na ‘Wag ako sumali kasi pangit ako at payatot in front of the whole room’.”
Charlie experienced bullying a lot, that even girls in school didn’t treat him well and would only call his attention if they needed his help, being the top student in the class.
During his college years, he already weighed 24 kilos but was still considered being underweight for his age. Charlie was so depressed because of his condition that affected his social relationship among his peers and even thought several times of committing suicide. But then, he surrendered all his pains to the Almighty for he didn’t want to be rejected anymore.
“I prayed to God na sana di na ko lagi na re-reject or ayoko na lagi nafi-feel ko di ako important sa mga tao,” he said.
One summer vacation, he was desperate to change his way of life and recover from anorexia, so he started researching and study about “Calorie Counting,” which meant counting the amount of calories consumed. Being an anorexic used to consume a small amount of food, he was having a hard time eating the amount of food that was required for his calorie count, which led him to indigestion. But because of him being so desperate, he continued the process, even if it caused him to vomit every day.
“Every day para ako masusuka and di ako tumatayo kasi sobra full lagi nafi-feel ko sa body.”
Finally, after continuously meeting all his required calorie consumption daily, all his sacrifices paid off as Charlie’s weight continued to increase from 34 to 60 kilos at the end of his summer break.
Charlie’s friends couldn’t believe his transformation that he was able to meet the ideal weight from a skinny guy to someone they could hardly recognize.
“Kahit yung mga nakakausap ko before di nila ako kilala daw and pansin ko malayo-layo na talaga yung itsura ko sa dati.”
From then on, he started to feel that people around him wanted to make friends and even wanted him to join pageants but because of his bullying experience, he was not the friendly type of person that they’ve come to know.
“Dun na nagsimula na nafi-feel ko na parang they want me to be their friend na then sinasali na ko nila sa mga pageants etc… Even on social media na dati wala talaga kumakausap sakin and kakausapin ka lang if they need something… But my personality changes na talaga. I’m not the friendly type anymore maybe because this is the effect of bullying,” Charlie said
A lot of netizens were inspired by his recovery as they shared their congratulatory messages.
God hears those who needs help. I think you were choosen to be an inspiration to others. God bless you more.
— themanbehind (@longbuthard) April 9, 2019
I was bullied too when I was younger. Kaya gusto kong mag-improve every single day nang dahil dun 🙂
— Optional Persona (@optionalpersona) April 9, 2019
I'm happy that you didn't stop believing. Keep that positivity in you Charlie.
— Jei Oquina (@iamjeiofficial) April 9, 2019
Wow. Such an inspiration. Galing. Yes no to bullying
— arCUTEkto'94 (@lpm415) April 9, 2019
A Reserve Officers’ Training Corps (ROTC) corps commander has been detained at the Dumangas police to face charges over the death of a fellow student, after the latter spread rumors about him.
The suspect was identified as Elmer Decilao, 22, a graduating student pursuing Bachelor of Arts in Education degree.
The victim, Willy Amihoy, 23, a freshman pursuing a Bachelor of Science degree, was found dead inside the comfort room of the boys’ dormitory of Iloilo State College of Fisheries (ISCOF) – Dumangas Campus yesterday noon.
According to Police Maj. John Suegay, Amihoy allegedly bullied Decilao by accusing him of stealing a wallet. This greatly peeved the suspect until he killed the victim by hitting him on the head with a pipe.
School security guard Rex Damian received a report about an altercation inside the boy’s dormitory in the campus. When he went there to investigate, he found drops of blood on the kitchen floor. The bloodstains led him inside the toilet where the victim was slumped face down on the floor.
WARNING: graphic content
ACTUAL PHOTOS of the gruesome murder of William Ahoy, 23, an ROTC cadet in Iloilo State College of Fisheries. He died after being hit with a metal pipe by his corps commander earlier this afternoon.
GANITO BA ANG NASYUNALISMONG TINUTURO SA ROTC?!!!! pic.twitter.com/7t57VLBNRN
— MENCH (@menchongdeee) March 11, 2019
Decilao tried to flee by jumping over the fence but he was later arrested. He will face murder charges according to the police.
The school administration has yet to issue a statement on the incident whereas Akbayan Youth called on campus authorities to conduct a thorough investigation of the incident.
Parents of the bullied Ateneo de Manila University Junior High School student broke their silence about the incident that their son became involved in.
The parents stated that their son “chose his true sense of dignity” and “is not a loser” to be pitied. They have also left their son’s name undisclosed to avoid being memoralized as the “bullied boy from Ateneo.”
“Our son was asked by the bully to make a choice. From the bully’s own words, ‘Ano ang gusto mo, dignidad o bugbog?’ – but in the bully’s definition, choosing ‘dignidad’ was a far more degrading option, one that would subject our son to inhumane treatment and abuse.”
They also expressed that they felt outraged upon seeng the two-minute viral video, but chose to remain silent over the issue to protect their son and help him heal.
“He did not do anything to deserve this kind of treatment from his classmates. But, despite what happened, we will not let this incident damage our son – he will heal from this, and we will ensure that he will grow up with his morality and values intact.”
The parents have extended their gratitude to those who helped their son and encouraged other bullying victims to speak up.
“Let every bully know that you may crush every single bone in his body, but you can never, no matter how frustrating you try, take away his dignity.
“Let every bully know that there is justice, and that crimes against the innocent will not prosper. Let every bully know that there is a God who favors the humble and the weak.”
The statement didn’t sit well specially on netizens who are following the issue. Some understood the parents while some others questioned how they raised their son.
Sure ka ba na alam ng parents na bully ang anak nila? ang sa akin lng after naging viral ang bata at nadismiss sa Ateneo makakatulong din ba ang mga nambash sa knya sa social media para makapagsimula ulit?
— ChinitoSanti (@ChinitoEffect) December 23, 2018
I think Ateneo did the right thing now, but take note only after netizens cried foul so let's watch these IVY league schools and other schools as well na sana hindi na maulit ang mga ganito whether private or public. As for the bully, HIS PARENTS failed him big time sana ma-root
— Yumi Moran (@yumimoran) December 23, 2018
Dapat sa bata na yan homeschooling and at the same time psychiatric help. Best huag i-enroll sa ibang school baka mag hari-harian nanaman.
— Theoretical_Tiger (@Alistair_Jlee) December 23, 2018
I would like to honor the laudible stand of the parents of this boy abused by that bully. But at the same time, do not let this boy get away with what he did without being punished. I suggest you file the proper charges for such inhumane actions.
— Tirso Cruz III (@tirsocruziii) December 27, 2018
Submissiveness is not a virtue. I sympathize with the parents, but “turning the other check” to a bully is not the right response. Resist. Stand tall.
— William Cabangon (@wmcabangon) December 26, 2018
And let this bullying be a reminder for everyone to fight. Never be silent about bullying. If you witness a bullying incident and you do nothing, you side with the bully. If you are bullied and you don't complain or ask for help, you can't blame the world for not helping.
— damnbrown (@thedamnbrown) December 27, 2018
So ayun nalaman ko kamakailan lang na naglabas na pala ng statement ung mga parents nung bully sa Ateneo, ung mga ibang basher date naging supporter 😂 mga balimbing eh
P.S. I'm not one of those bashers😂
— Angel? (@kendgel) December 27, 2018