My straight friends often ask me, can gay people settle alone? Well, if you’d throw that question to me two years ago, I would say ‘Of course, not! That’s ridiculous. How can someone spend the rest of his/her life alone?’. But now I think I can. I did not mean that I prefer growing old alone, but if I wasn’t able to find the right person, I believe that I can survive without a lover.
A crazy observation about gay people is that they tend to value independence so much. Like they completely don’t rely their whole life on someone, especially on a significant other. I’d like to think that we have such high tolerance for being alone.
I mean, we have fought one too many battles, from coming out to living up to this society’s heteronormative expectations. With that, we grew so much stronger that not finding love is not a problem at all.
Homos give laughter and joy to the world, let’s not argue with that fact. And that’s enough for them. I’m not saying they are hopeless romantic or we have given up on love, I just want people to know that gay people have so much love to give. And to be loved back is just a sweet, sweet bonus.
Many same-sex couples became some of the most successful relationships in human history. We love hard, and we fight hard. We don’t let go that easily but know when to stop.
So, if someone asks me now at when age do gay people quit finding love, I’d answer, we don’t find love. We give them.
Farrokh Bulsara, or more commonly known as Freddie Mercury, is an iconic British singer, songwriter, and record producer. Moreover, he is well-known for being the lead vocalist and songwriter of the legendary band Queen.
Recently dubbed as a gay icon, Mercury had kept his sexuality and same-sex relationships in private. Even though he died mainly because of AIDS, he never really wanted his true identity to come out early on his career.
But having discovered these photos of him and his last boyfriend, Jim Hutton, you would surely notice the intimacy that unravels the true meaning of love.
Let me tell you a romantic tale of love. Mercury started going out with the then-hairdresser Hutton in mid-1980s. It is reported that in two separate occasions, Freddie approached Jim at a club. Both of these attempts failed. Some said that it wasn’t until the two met for the third time at the same club that Freddie’s determination paid off. For your information, this moment happened almost two years after their first meeting. Since then, they have been together.
Another two years later, Jim moved in with Freddie at Garden Lodge and had been together until the singer’s death in 1991.
Just like any other love story, it must come to an end. It is recalled that Freddie was diagnosed with AIDS. According to Jim, Freddie wanted to let go of him because of his fatal condition. Being madly in love, Jim did not leave his side.
In a documentary where Jim wasn’t able to hold back his emotions, he recalled what he said to Freddie that night he wanted out.
“I love you, Freddie. I’m not going anywhere.”
So he did. Hutton nursed the ‘greatest love’ of his life. He was there until Freddie’s last breath.
Through the years, Jim remains mum about the specifics of their relationship. But today, we recovered 10+ of their sweetest moments as life partners.
It’s really unfortunate how they were not able to last until this very moment when love stories like this are sweet, and not a sin. Let’s hope for their peace, and may their love story lives on.
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What a great time to be alive!
The Philippines is known to be a religious country and Filipinos are very reserved and not that liberated. As the time goes by, generation to generation, people became more open to “deviance”.
And this includes LGBT and Same Love. Finding love for gay people has become easier and more tolerable compared before. We should remember that before, being gay is a mental disorder, but it is good to know that people start to become more open-minded. We can now say that love truly embraces all kinds of people, and is now available to everyone, regardless of preferences.
Unfortunately, there’s a difference between tolerating and accepting this kind of love. There’s still this belief that only men and women should be together, one man and one woman.
On February 27, photos of two guys together on a beach went viral and it was concluded that the two might be dating.
The Facebook page, “Bes, Kalma.” posted the pictures of the trending couple.
On the post, we can see a gay guy wearing a blue one-piece suit with a foreign man with pink board shorts. The two is yet to be identified.
The post already has 21,000 reactions, more than 9,000 shares and, 5,500 comments. Netizens have mixed opinions about this.
Many were delighted and expressed their support to the couple,
But some did not believe.
Some even said that the pictures are edited and the gay were just too desperate.
But at the end of the day, still, love knows no boundaries and love knows no gender. A couple or not, these two need to be respected.
Here’s the original post of “Bes, Kalma.” on Facebook.