A woman named Epifanie Mercado shared her experience on her Twitter account about her wearing a cute dress that her boyfriend bought for her to school.
While she was happy with the dress, someone chose to ask if she was going to church because of what she was wearing and another said she was dressed like a mother.
So I went to school wearing this cute dress that my boyfriend bought me. The sad part is, after trying to dress up nice and pretty, someone commented , "asa ka mo simba" "mura kag mama". Hahay. pic.twitter.com/dClTdw1bn9
— panyang (@Mercadoepifanie) July 2, 2019
In an interview with the Dailypedia via direct message, Epifanie said she knew that there will be a time that people will be subjected to criticism. Though she felt down upon hearing those comments, she realized that she was not born to please everyone and that she dresses to express herself.
“At some point in our lives, we are subjected to criticism. Initially, I felt down but then I realized that I was born not to please everyone. I am a work of art and I dress to express. What really matters are the people who see the good in me.”
For Mercado, negative comments are not really important. What really matters for her was the positive reactions from those who advocate women empowerment because for her it is the foundation why she confidently slays every outfit she wears.
After posting her experience on social media, she started receiving comments from women who expressed the same treatment which made her say that, “Criticism may be difficult to accept but it all depends on how you react to it.”
I wore this dress last Friday at work and I experienced the same thing. But let’s weeerk it, girl!!! We’re beautiful!! ✨❤️ pic.twitter.com/f9btLqXEh4
— kath stands with taylor (@makaable) July 3, 2019
The best advice she could give to those women who are being judged by the way they dress is to be more confident. “The more confident you are, the more stunning you become.”
In the end, she said that, “I would definitely wear the dress again because no one in this world has the right to tell me what kind of clothes to put on.”
Society affects a lot of people more than they realize.
Most of the time, they are influenced and affected by what other people say – regardless if it is a positive or a negative remark.
Sure, there are some who can easily accept it and say that they can take negative comments as a form of criticisms, but not everyone can do the same. For some, these comments can affect the way they perceive themselves even when they don’t want to.
There are a few who doesn’t want to receive such harsh comments which is why they try to avoid wearing flashy clothes that will turn them into a showstopper whenever they are with a huge crowd. However, not all women agree to this. Some of them still wear whatever they like – simply because it is their right to do so.
In relation to this, a female netizen named Louise Claire D. Delacruz tried to change women’s mind regarding this matter.
Delacruz even encouraged women to wear their favorite OOTDs even when the society says it doesn’t suit them.
Read her inspiring post below:
“When I wear short shorts, it doesn’t translate to “come on people, f***ing ogle at my legs”. When I wear something revealing, it doesn’t give you the right to disrespect me in anyway. When I wear something that does not fit your definition of “conservative”, it does not mean that I’m a sl*t.”
The first part of Delacruz’ post is somewhat related to another issue – which is about the women being blamed for what they worse if they are disrespected by some perverted guy.
“Lakas maka-swimsuit, hindi naman sexy.” “Makashorts, di naman makinis.” “Makasleeveless, hindi naman maputi.” Well, people, I don’t have to be sexy to wear whatever the f**k I like. I may be fat or skinny or curvy or petite or tan or fair or flawless or painted with scars, I am MY definition of beautiful, and you people, are yours. I may wear my shorts or baggy pants or tiny dresses, I am MY definition of gorgeous, and you are yours.”
She also shared that nothing will ever stop her from wearing clothes that people think doesn’t suit her because she owns her body and she has a freedom to so.
“People most of the time are so afraid wear what they want because of this very thing we call the “society”. This is hypocritical of me, but, damn, let’s just wear those OOTDs and let us not give a s**t anymore.”
Delacruz stressed that she is her own definition of beautiful, which isn’t based on those skinny supermodels, flawless actresses or whoever the people have in mind.
She has her own standard of beautiful and will not change it because the society said so.
Facebook users who had seen her post were motivated to be proud of themselves regardless of what people will say about their appearance.
What Delacruz said is indeed right. Why would a person bother to qualify for other people’s standards when that person isn’t even trying to look good for them?
At the end of the day, what matters is the fact that a person fully accepts his/her own self regardless if the society does or not.
What are your thoughts about Delacruz’ post? Did it inspire you as well?
TAGS: Criticism, Female Netizen Promotes Self-Love by Encouraging Women to Wear what they Like Regardless of People’s Comments, Louise Claire D. Delacruz, Negative Comments, Public Standards, Society, women empowerment, women's rights