- A couple shared their story and admitted that the journey is nowhere near perfect.
Dailypedia talked with Roman Escober, who has been with his partner Onin Francisco for seven years now, about what makes a relationship work.
In his messages, he admitted that there have been ups and downs throughout their relationship.
Roman said that the setting of their first encounter was quite simple. Roman’s housemate invited Onin to their drinking sesh in 2013.
He said that he was not feeling well at that time so he let the others enjoy the night while he slept in his room but one thing was for sure: Onin definitely caught his eye.
“Literal na kuryente na dumaloy sa katawan ko lalo nung nag hi sya sakin,” Roman said.
“Gusto ko na sya nun. Pero dahil sa masama pakiramdam ko, walang chance na makuha ko number nya or maki join sa session.”
But it seems like Onin also took notice of him because the day after, as Roman was feeling down due to the thought that he would have a hard time getting his contact details, Onin messaged him.
7 years ago nung first time namin nagkita.. may spark akong naramdaman swear! Literal na kuryente nung nagkatinginan kami. Totoo pala yun! Tapos napaginipan ko sya agad nung gabi ding yun. kaya pala until now kami pa din..
— Romanster (@romanster23) July 30, 2020
Their first encounter was quite smooth-sailing. However, Roman did admit that there were people that started questioning their relationship.
“And it’s all because of me,” he said.
“Since ako lang naman ang maloko, mas bata at curious sa mga bagay bagay, ako ang madalas nagkakaroon ng kasalanan. Number 1 ang lust. Hirap maging marupok. Haha!”
With every obstacle comes a lesson. Both of them learned how to be open to one another, as Onin is someone who is very confrontational.
“Mahilig sya mag confront at dun na din ako natuto umintindi. Ang maging broad ang isip pag dating sa isang relasyon na dapat di puro sariling kaligayahan lang ang inuuna. Dapat kasama sya.”
That’s one of their secrets. Another one is to be each other’s best friend. Make sure to treat your significant other as someone that you trust and can be real with.
“Jowa na bespren mo pa. May parehas kaming hilig at meron ding pag kakaiba. Pero di kmi nag caclash. Ginagawa namin ay pinapaintindi namin sa isat isa ang mga bagay bagay dahil may sarili din naman kaming isip at talento.”
Roman also learned a lot of things while in a relationship with Onin: 1) Explore new things together; 2) Always know when to say sorry and learn how to compromise; 3) Include each other in decisions regarding your future; 4) Consider your partner’s feelings and as much as possible, avoid hurting one another; and 5) Trust in God.
“Di naman kami perpekto pero nag grow talaga kami together. nag iba ang priorities at ayaw na ng drama kaya tumagal,” Roman said.
When asked if he had something to say to Onin, he wrote: “I’m so happy, Bagsm na finally 7 years na tayo at masasabi ko na masaya at kontento pa rin ako sayo. Di ako nag sisisi sa mga bagay na pinalampas ko dahil ang alam ko ikaw ang mas tamang piliin ko. Di man tayo gaya ng ibang couples dyan na marangya, pero masisigurado ko sayo ang pagmahahal ko na di kayang tumbasan ng pera o anumang materyal na bagay. Mabagal man nating maabot ang ating mga pangarap eh ayos lang hanggat magkasama tayo at patuloy na nag sisikap. In Gods perfect time! Darating din tayo jan! I Love you. Bags ko!”
Photos courtesy of Roman Escober.