Reese Barcelon
- A Facebook user named Abbygail Marquez how the love of her life accepted her and her child from another man as his own.
- According to her, they already had a history back when they were in elementary.
- Little did she know that the same man will be the one who will completely love her.
In most teenage pregnancy cases, not all fathers are able to be man enough to take responsibility of the child. What they do is to suggest abortion to the mother or break up with her for good.
However, there are also men who are willing to be a father of a child even when they are not the biological father at all. They wholeheartedly accept the child as a part of the life of the woman they love and treat the child as their own.
One of the young mothers who were lucky enough to find the man who will accept her whole being is Abbygail Marquez.
She shared that after her child’s father left them for good, a man named Jay willingly performed the duties that the biological father was supposedly be doing.
Read her full story below:
“Teenage Step-dad”
I was a typical young mom.
Highschool student.
Nabuntis.
Iniwan ng boyfriend.”
“Tinanggap ko na sa sarili ko na kaming dalawa nalang talaga ng baby ko ang magsasama. Until a man from my past suddenly came out of nowhere. Mothers day 2015, 1month old na yung baby girl ko may nagchat sakin, his name is Jay, my first boyfriend/childhood sweetheart we became together when we were grade 4 (pbb kids diba) pero nagkahiwalay din kami agad, siguro kasi bata pa kami nun at puppy love lang yun. Binati ako,hiningi number ko, kinamusta ako. Akala ko for chismis purposes lang nung una, lamoyun? Yung makikichismis lang sa buhay ko katulad ng ibang mga naging classmate ko. But I was wrong. Wala akong idea na nung mga time na magkachat kami e plano na pala nyang pumasok sa buhay namin ng anak ko.”
According to Marques, she and Jay knew each other back in their elementary days. They had a story – which was short lived as they were too young back then.
“One day nagpost ako ng linya ng isang kanta “someday someone’s gonna take your place” actually para sa ex ko yung post na yun dahil alam kong balang araw may papalit sa responsibilidad na iniwan nya. After posting it nagpost din si Jay ng “I wish I could be that someone” nagulat ako, akala ko co-incidence lang. Kinumpronta ko sya, inamin nyang gusto nya ko. Sa totoo lang di sa nagmamaganda ako pero madami talagang gustong manligaw sakin nun pero I refused them all, gusto ko anak ko lang priority ko, so syempre nung inamin nya indenial ang lola mo, because I wasn’t so sure about him. Ilang beses ko syang nireject pero di sya sumusuko until one day naglasing sya umiiyak, vinivideohan sya ng kaibigan nya. Nagmamakaawa sya na bigyan ko sya ng chance, and so I did. Hinayaan ko syang ligawan ako at patunayan yung pagmamahal na sinasabi nya. Hanggang isang araw nag punta sya sa bahay namin sa nueva ecija (take note: taga caloocan sya) magisa lang sya at first time nyang bumyahe ng malayo hindi nya pa alam yung pupuntahan nya. He was a skater. May deck syang pinakaiingat-ingatan but he choose to sell it, para lang may maipamasahe sya papunta samin.”
“By that time I realized na baka nga totoong mahal nya kami, kasi he won’t waste effort,time and money going here kung trip trip lang. Nung magkasama kami dun ko na feel na he really wants to be a dad. He even change my babys diaper (even if he don’t know how its done), he puts her to sleep and he gives her milk. But still di parin nawawala sa isip ko yung mga doubts na..
“Bakit ako? Nanay na ko.”
“Baka naman gusto mo lang ng m*lf”
“Baka trip lang ako neto”
“Baka di nya kayang mahalin anak ko”
“Pangit kaya ng katawan ko”
“Losyang na ko bakit ako pa””
“Because Jay is a famous guy. 17years old lang sya and I know that he still wants to spend time being a millenial, he even had so many types of girl in his life, he is handsome and smart. Ano bang meron ako para piliin nya out of the girls na dalaga, nagseseksihan at patay na patay sknya?”
“Pag naging kami wala ng barkada, inom,gala,chiks at olos olos. Kaya sabi ko sa sarili ko “hindi nya kaya to” pero mali ako, kinaya nya, kinaya nyang sa isang iglap magbabago ang takbo ng buhay nya. And that’s why I’m thankful.
Nung sinagot ko na sya lumabas naman ang isang malaking doubt sa utak ko.
“Matatanggap ba kami ng magulang mo?””
Marquez didn’t want to hold him back, considering that he was young and he can still do a lot of things. But surprisingly, Jay willingly changed his life for her and treated them as his own family.
“He called me, he was crying and he let me listen while he was talking to his dad. Saying that he loves a woman with a child. They greatfully accepted us. And then he asks me kung pwede daw ba kaming magbakasyon sakanila (yung bakasyon palang yun habang buhay na) his family welcomed me and my daughter in their house.”
“His friends is asking him”bakit papatol ka nalang sa may anak pa”, but he answers them the same over and over again “mahal ko sila pamilya ko sila””
“Until today, 2years old na yung panganay namin, may baby boy nadin kami. Sobrang mahal ng anak ko yung daddy nya, first word ng baby ko is “Dada” pag umiiyak anak ko pupunta sya sa daddy nya, sobrang daddys girl na nya.”
“Best feeling yung ganito buo kaming pamilya, yung akala ko hindi kami magkakaroon nung una. Pero dumating sya, hindi ko sya hinanap kusa lang syang binigay samin. Talaga namang best things comes to those who wait.”
“Love is not blind, it sees but It doesn’t mind.
Kung may mawala man sayo siguradong may darating na totoong magmamahal sayo.”
“To all the stepdad around the world. I salute you. Hndi madaling magmahal ng anak ng iba pero nagawa nyo, madaling maging tatay pero hindi madaling magpakatatay. Yung tipong kalilimutan mo yung youth mo, yung barkada mo, yung hobbies mo para maging isang mabuting ama at asawa sa pamilya mo.”
“Salamat sa mga step-dad at hindi nyo hinayaang may mga batang lumaki ng walang ama. Isa po kayo sa mga tunay na bayani na walang hinihinging kapalit sa lahat ng sakripisyo nyo para sa pamilya nyo. Alam kong hindi lahat ng step dad mabait pero marami paring nagmamahal ng totoo. Kaya salamat sainyo!”
“Sa mga kabataan naman na nakabuntis at iniwan yung nabuntis nila kayo hahaha charoot. Wag ganun kayo din yung mawawalan hindi yung naiwan. Balang araw makikita nyo yung anak nyo, kamukhang kamukha nyo, malaki na pero may ibang kinikilalang ama, saka kayo magsisisi kung kelan huli na.”
“Hindi naman kamalasan ang pagkakaroon ng anak, sa una mahihirapan kayong tanggapin pero di magtatagal yayakapin nyo rin yung reality na binigay yan ng Dyos for a reason,lesson and to make you a better person.”
“Sa kasalukuyang nakabuntis at may plano ng mangiwan. Think twice, yang anak nyo ang magbibigay ng swerte sainyo wag nyo sayangin yung chance na makasama nyo sila. Happy father’s day sa mga walang b***g na tulad nyo hahaha.”
“Siguro iisipin ng iba na ang bata pa namin, oo bata pa kami pero hindi kami nagkulang ng pagmamahal at pagaaruga sa mga anak namin. Hindi basehan ang edad para masabi kung hanggang saan ka magiging isang mabuting magulang.”
“Siguro para sa iba katangahang akuin yung responsibilidad ng iba pero mali kayo, pag nagmamahal lahat tanggap mo sa taong mahal mo. Maganda man o pangit dapat tatanggapin mo yun ng buong buo. Walang halong sumbat o utang na loob.”
“Happy fathers day sa lahat ng haligi ng tahanan, tatay, stepdad, single dad, sa mga kuya na tatay pa ng mga kapatid nila at syempre sa mga single mom na tumatayong tatay sa mga anak nila. Kayo ang tunay na bayani!
Salute
Lesson learned: wag kang papasok sa isang sitwasyon na hindi mo naman kayang panindigan lalo na kung may baby kang masasaktan at maapektuhan. Isip bago pasok isip bago buka.
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Presently, they are living with their two kids happily.
Marquez is thankful to Jay for being a part of their family and for being a good father to their children; hence, she decided to make her post as a tribute for father’s day.
Meanwhile, the netizens who had read her post admired Jay for being a real and responsible man – which not everyone can do. Moreover, they praised the family for the genuine happiness they have.
Every man can be a dad, but not everyone can be a father.
Only the responsible ones are able to stand up and be a good father to their children. Therefore, we should make them feel extra special this coming father’s day and acknowledge their efforts for us.
What do you think about Marquez’ little family? Share your thoughts with us!
